Day 23 Relationships and Love
So, I highly advise you read my latest blogs, and all the articles/material from Desteni. Because there it covers all the dimensions that I won't be covering in this blog. There are many problems with love and relationships. In this blog your mind will perceive it as me talking about the positive things of relationship the good. So let's talk about it.
Even though this will sound GOOD, it is not good. It just is. It's truth. Only your mind perceives it as good.
Okay.
So relationships are natural, inevitable. Every relationship you have an opportunity to grow, to learn about yourself through another.
You know those great relationships? Great people in your life? The ones you laugh with, smile with and enjoy?
So those exist or existed or will exist.
Remember that for a moment.
One thing that is certain is the relationship will end. Because death is certain.
Who are you when you no longer have the relationship.
You are mourning, and sad. You are torn.
Everything that the person represented to you, is now gone.
Okay, so now I am going to say somethings that your mind perceives as bad. But its not bad, its just truth.
If you only enjoy other people and the relationship, and then the relationship ends, and you mourn. You haven't yet learned anything. Learning takes place where you become something new. If you have someone great, then learn to be like them. If you are able to let them go at any moment and not change who you are, then you are whole.
Imagine.
Being so joyful, so amazing, with so much laughter, with so much expression and movement, being so much for yourself alone. Would you NEED someone else?
Would you rather have someone in your life that NEEDS you, or is whole and complete as themselves and they SHARE who they are with you as an equal.
Do you want to be surrounded by equals or people who are empty inside, lacking, needing?
Every relationship with Another person is temporary, but your relationship with yourself is forever.
You are the point.
This blog is NOT about breaking up with your partners, or not going into relationships. NO.
This blog is about realizing YOU are what matters. You are the Point. And whether you are IN a relationship or NOT, guess what, you still have YOU. So who are YOU? Because people BOTH use relationship to run away from themselves, and they run away from people to run away from themselves.
The right choice? The right choice is to face yourself, know thyself, work with thyself, and be whole/complete.
USE other people. USE them as ways to help you develop your relationship with yourself.
Be selfish in this regard. The greater person you are, the greatest person you are for yourself and for everyone. There is only one greatness.
If you ever meet a great man or woman, someone who is really special, someone who you can LEARN from, then fucking celebrate and learn. Most people attack such people.
If you see people around you Learning, fucking celebrate. Celebrate the fact if someone is greater than you, because NOW you have someone you can learn from.
Get over your own ego and realize that we are all in this together and it is all about SELF, and so
its about YOU sorting YOU out. No amount of complaining, react, blaming, or action will mean shit, unless you start with YOU.
The same I could say. No amount of relationships, no amount of sex, no amount of babies, no amount of money, no amount of fame, no amount of whatever, will mean shit unless you sort out you. Who you are leads to what you do. If you break up with the world, and are alone, it still don't mean shit unless you work on you. So just work on you, wherever you are. The rest doesn't matter. In the end we all die. In the end, we lose everyone, and everything. In the end we only have ourselves. So the question here is, are you ready to Live with yourself?
Even though this will sound GOOD, it is not good. It just is. It's truth. Only your mind perceives it as good.
Okay.
So relationships are natural, inevitable. Every relationship you have an opportunity to grow, to learn about yourself through another.
You know those great relationships? Great people in your life? The ones you laugh with, smile with and enjoy?
So those exist or existed or will exist.
Remember that for a moment.
One thing that is certain is the relationship will end. Because death is certain.
Who are you when you no longer have the relationship.
You are mourning, and sad. You are torn.
Everything that the person represented to you, is now gone.
Okay, so now I am going to say somethings that your mind perceives as bad. But its not bad, its just truth.
If you only enjoy other people and the relationship, and then the relationship ends, and you mourn. You haven't yet learned anything. Learning takes place where you become something new. If you have someone great, then learn to be like them. If you are able to let them go at any moment and not change who you are, then you are whole.
Imagine.
Being so joyful, so amazing, with so much laughter, with so much expression and movement, being so much for yourself alone. Would you NEED someone else?
Would you rather have someone in your life that NEEDS you, or is whole and complete as themselves and they SHARE who they are with you as an equal.
Do you want to be surrounded by equals or people who are empty inside, lacking, needing?
Every relationship with Another person is temporary, but your relationship with yourself is forever.
You are the point.
This blog is NOT about breaking up with your partners, or not going into relationships. NO.
This blog is about realizing YOU are what matters. You are the Point. And whether you are IN a relationship or NOT, guess what, you still have YOU. So who are YOU? Because people BOTH use relationship to run away from themselves, and they run away from people to run away from themselves.
The right choice? The right choice is to face yourself, know thyself, work with thyself, and be whole/complete.
USE other people. USE them as ways to help you develop your relationship with yourself.
Be selfish in this regard. The greater person you are, the greatest person you are for yourself and for everyone. There is only one greatness.
If you ever meet a great man or woman, someone who is really special, someone who you can LEARN from, then fucking celebrate and learn. Most people attack such people.
If you see people around you Learning, fucking celebrate. Celebrate the fact if someone is greater than you, because NOW you have someone you can learn from.
Get over your own ego and realize that we are all in this together and it is all about SELF, and so
its about YOU sorting YOU out. No amount of complaining, react, blaming, or action will mean shit, unless you start with YOU.
The same I could say. No amount of relationships, no amount of sex, no amount of babies, no amount of money, no amount of fame, no amount of whatever, will mean shit unless you sort out you. Who you are leads to what you do. If you break up with the world, and are alone, it still don't mean shit unless you work on you. So just work on you, wherever you are. The rest doesn't matter. In the end we all die. In the end, we lose everyone, and everything. In the end we only have ourselves. So the question here is, are you ready to Live with yourself?
Thanks for sharing !
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