What does it mean to be a child or an adult?
So I was watching WallE on the tube and someone made the comment that I like to watch kid's movies. So I questioned the person what their definition of kids movie is. Because why is certain movies just for kids?
So the person shared that they saw kids movies as lacking violence and sexual content. So when I reflect on this seemingly small point, I actually see a greater pattern in society. Whether this is the case or not it is for you to decide. The pattern is that we define childhood and adulthood as being different, where you are an adult once you have sex or once you have committed some acts of violence. Meaning if you see a person who has never had sex and is not aggressive, then you perceive them as being child-like. And if you see someone who has had sex for the first time, you perceive them as an adult. Alternatively if you see someone who looks attractive or dressing sexually or provocatively, then they are no longer a child. Another example is if a child commits acts of violence like bullying, or fighting, then you don't perceive them as a child.
When I look at myself, I see that subconsciously this is true, that this is the perception I have as an automatic shift inside myself, that is like a subtle influence or change. I see this in how we treat and see people who are virgins, or who had sex at an earlier age. I see this in how we treat young bullies, or people who are not aggressive or don't defend themselves with violence.
So if this is true, that this is a definition of being an adult that an adult is someone who is violent and/or sexual then that is a sad definition, a sad way of living. Now, this pattern is not something we would be consciously aware of. But I can see it in how people are attractive to violent movies or sexual movies. I can see it in how we talk about children, and treat content that is suitable for kids. And sometimes we actually praise and glorify something violent or sexual. The question here is why is this the case?
What I am seeing is that being an adult has a positive connotation, and that being an adult means sex and violence, which also have a positive connotation. We give a positive meaning to this. So if we see a guy for example that is buff, strong, physically built that subconsciously we are attracted to their potential level of violence or strength. The same with a woman, but for her sexuality. I have seen many times where people define someone they know as being like an adult when they see them wear makeup for the first time or having developed their breasts, or for a guy for being muscular or having a beard. These definitions of adulthood are shallow, very surface level, and not at all do with the actual person.
The question here should be, who is this person? How are they are a person? How do they act? What decisions do they make and what reasons do they give? Because all of these things are the actual person. How they look or the impression you have is not real. And asking the question, do they stand for what is best for all is the best indicator for being an adult. Because it means you are at the highest potential for maturity, responsibility, respect, understanding in life possible. So no matter your age, that point is what defines a real adult.
So the person shared that they saw kids movies as lacking violence and sexual content. So when I reflect on this seemingly small point, I actually see a greater pattern in society. Whether this is the case or not it is for you to decide. The pattern is that we define childhood and adulthood as being different, where you are an adult once you have sex or once you have committed some acts of violence. Meaning if you see a person who has never had sex and is not aggressive, then you perceive them as being child-like. And if you see someone who has had sex for the first time, you perceive them as an adult. Alternatively if you see someone who looks attractive or dressing sexually or provocatively, then they are no longer a child. Another example is if a child commits acts of violence like bullying, or fighting, then you don't perceive them as a child.
When I look at myself, I see that subconsciously this is true, that this is the perception I have as an automatic shift inside myself, that is like a subtle influence or change. I see this in how we treat and see people who are virgins, or who had sex at an earlier age. I see this in how we treat young bullies, or people who are not aggressive or don't defend themselves with violence.
So if this is true, that this is a definition of being an adult that an adult is someone who is violent and/or sexual then that is a sad definition, a sad way of living. Now, this pattern is not something we would be consciously aware of. But I can see it in how people are attractive to violent movies or sexual movies. I can see it in how we talk about children, and treat content that is suitable for kids. And sometimes we actually praise and glorify something violent or sexual. The question here is why is this the case?
What I am seeing is that being an adult has a positive connotation, and that being an adult means sex and violence, which also have a positive connotation. We give a positive meaning to this. So if we see a guy for example that is buff, strong, physically built that subconsciously we are attracted to their potential level of violence or strength. The same with a woman, but for her sexuality. I have seen many times where people define someone they know as being like an adult when they see them wear makeup for the first time or having developed their breasts, or for a guy for being muscular or having a beard. These definitions of adulthood are shallow, very surface level, and not at all do with the actual person.
The question here should be, who is this person? How are they are a person? How do they act? What decisions do they make and what reasons do they give? Because all of these things are the actual person. How they look or the impression you have is not real. And asking the question, do they stand for what is best for all is the best indicator for being an adult. Because it means you are at the highest potential for maturity, responsibility, respect, understanding in life possible. So no matter your age, that point is what defines a real adult.
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