Day 848 Abuse

 Abuse

One of the things that we cannot control in our lives is being abused. In such a moment, you aren't the one that started it, it is something that happens to you. That is why it is out of your control. I suppose its possible for someone to go through life without ever being abused. But then again, you don't have any control over whether it happens or not.

 Being abused is like getting punched from behind without expecting it. You couldn't predict it. You could not have known. You didn't have any power or control about whether it would it happen. And once it happens you can either respond to it in a healthy or an unhealthy way. And you don't have control over what is required of you to do it healthily. You have to tell somebody and some people, especially those closest to you and those who know the person. If you don't say anything, if you keep it quiet, it already is the unhealthy path of suppression. It does wreck you.

So again you don't have any choice. And again you don't have any control, including control over how people respond to you, whether people will believe you. You don't have any control, except whether you will be healthy and take care of yourself. So honor and cherish that power.

 I can promise you this, that if you do speak and tell people, even if no one believes you and they do leave you, you will still be better off, and feel much better about yourself, and be much healthier. It is always the best choice to do so. It also only reveals who are really good people in your life, and who will really be there for you and be supportive of you, so it's very good indeed. Better to be alone then surrounded by phonies. 

I also have a theory that abuse is like a virus. People who abuse, are people who were abused themselves and kept quiet about it. It drives you insane essentially. It makes you face your friendship constructs, your loved ones, your meaning of self as defined through other people. Will you choose yourself over other people? Will you choose what is the highest selves of us all, and not accept anything less than that?

Through talking about the abuse you have went through at the hands of others, you are ending the cycle. You are honor the highest self in another and in yourself. You are finding real peace. Evil is like a virus. But if you stop the infection with yourself, you can become the antidote. Choose Life. Choose yourself. Choose the highest self in us all.