Day 40 The secret to live without being influenced is to stop influencing others

Solution: If you see someone is reactive, step out of their way. Meaning, if someone is sharing their viewpoint in a reactive manner, I myself want to stop their reaction. But you can't help someone to change if they don't want to. So learning to let go, is a big point to stop the "influence." If you let go of the person inside of you, which really means letting go of your reaction to the person's reaction, then what they say won't have any affect on you. So that letting go, stepping aside, moving out of the way, so you can let them face Life and learn through Life how they need to take responsibility for their emotions and feelings. So assist once, and assess whether they are able/willing/ready for help. If not, then step out of the way. Otherwise, you will fight with them, react with them, argue, sharing your opinions, and keep repeating yourself, and they keep repeating themselves, when the truth is you can't help them, even though you want to help. But helping means helping those who are ready to help themselves. You can't help someone who doesn't want it. And if you try to help someone who doesn't want it, they will react and fight and you are keeping them from facing Life, and facing themselves. It's liking wanting to hold onto an unhealthy relationship with another person. A person only has influence on you if you hold onto the unhealthy relationship. Otherwise what they say would have no meaning as you let them go face life, and face themselves. Its like the statement: your words have no power over me, because I don't give you any power within me, which you do by stepping aside. Don't stand in their way. Don't stop them from leaving. Just live your life and help those who are ready for help. One of the hardest thing for me to do has been to step aside when I see someone reaction is being spread into others, especially children. But the right thing to do, the best for all thing to do is to step aside. You just can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped. I can only help those who are ready for help. That will always be true. it doesn't make exception for children who are taking on programming from adults. So I have to step aside and let the adults learn from Life. Either Life or someone who has experience will be your teacher for everything. This includes becoming what is best for all. And may only learn in the after life, and that is fine. So its about recognizing what i can do and what I can't do. I cannot help someone, so as to prevent consequence, if they are not ready. I can only assist those who are ready to change through understanding. Otherwise, I will try to use manipulation and influence to get them to change, and they will resist it, and so nothing good comes from that interaction. I cannot save kids. I cannot save people. I can only save myself and help others save themselves, or step out of the way and let them face themselves and gain enough life experience to be ready to save themselves. It is unhealthy to try to save someone that doesn't want to be saved. And trying to save/help the whole of humanity through manipulation, control or influence is not possible,, and if you give yourself permission to do the same to others, than you give permission to be done onto you. So STOP!!!! trying to save, influence, manipulate others, in the NAME of their own good. You cannot, its impossible, it will never happen. You can only help those who are ready and willing. So learn to let go, learn to be able to step out of the way, for THEIR good, and YOUR good. It is best for all. If you have no desire to change another in any way, then its impossible for someone else to change you. It works both ways. If you are willing to walk and share as an equal with someone else, then you are willing to learn and walk with that same person and teach from an equal starting point. 

The secret to live without being influenced is to stop influencing others.