Day 50 The word Family: Changing Freedom to Accountability
What is held within the word family? What is the information that we carry within from our life experience that is stored within the word family? Your Life Experience, this Word, the Information, all of it will be activated and lived/possessed when it is turned on. The word is turned on with the proper triggers.
Your family will always be your family. When you compare how you behave, what you physically say, how you sound when you are speaking as and within the word Family, to when you are not, there is a difference.
When you meet a stranger, when you meet someone for the first time, there is much respect and civility. How come with the people we have known the longest, our family, can the really worst of us, the really evil of us can exist? Maybe its because we have defined our family as always being our family, and that no matter what we say or do to them, or they unto us, that they will always be our family, so it is okay, because they love you DEEP down.
When it comes to family programming, it is like the Pure Freedom to do or say whatever you want. So what do we choose to do with ultimate freedom without consequences? We say some very rude things, attackative things, we make each other cry, we yell, shout, we emotionally manipulate, we get defensive, we get angry. We KNOW that this would be unacceptable in any other context, so why with Family? Perhaps this is who we have accepted and allowed us to be. And like I said, there is no consequence and you are free to choose or say whatever you want, because they are your family. So this is what we do with ultimate free choice situation.
One important dimension to look at with the Family context and Family word is the sense of pleasure, and feeling of freedom, and feeling of power. When we say horrid things to each other and yell at each other in family situations, we love it. There is that dimension within us. It is interesting what we do with free choice and freedom from accountability.
Because our minds function within polarity, when switch the roles between victim and abuser in the family context, where we allow the abuse, the yelling and shouting unto us because we continuously accept and allow the dimension of being the abuser within us. Every victim equally carries the abuser signature. One would need to let go of both at the same time in order to really change.
What is interesting is how young adults and teenagers seek to leave the family and find their own group of friends and people who can be their own family by choice. I have observed within me and my life that the multiple times I have done this, that my programming inside the word Family would activate. Where with my NEW family, I would act and behave in the same way as both abuser and victim. And the other people were also living their own programming. The signature for this includes the Immense feeling of FREEDOM and Acceptance, which is the freedom from accountability, freedom to do or say anything onto others, and freedom to abuse.
When a person, like myself, starts a relationship with one other person, a romantic one, initially it will be very positive and good, and over time it will turn sour. It may take a very long time for it to turn sour. We may even get married or have kids. But at some point the family programming will rear its head. Everything that a person has lived, such as myself, and the information that is stored within the word family will be activated within them. It never goes away, unless really removed. So that is how it is possible to start a new relationship and new family and it all being positive at first, and yet we become exactly like our parents and all the problems and fighting and arguing and attacking resurfaces. That information is only allowed to surface when you KNOW that you have someone else TRAPPED or they AGREE to be like a FAMILY with you.
The information, the LIVING information that is within us, that is stored within the word family can be changed. It is the sins of the Father as spoken in the bible. It has been passed onto generation after generation. Attacking your family doesn't change the information, because that is the information, you will know this if you read carefully my words. The thing is that we have plenty of examples where we behave with respect, kindness, and regard. So its not impossible.
How to go about changing the information within us? Part of it involves owning up to what we have done to other people which happen to be family members. They are equally people. So self-forgiveness is needed for all of the horrid things you have said and done to them. From there a commit to change will help. At the same time we must be able to face our own victimization. This includes self-forgiving the blame onto others. With ultimate freedom, we place all our accountability onto the Family. So to change we reverse that flow of accountability from them to ourselves. Through this process we change. So we change Freedom to Accountability.
Your family will always be your family. When you compare how you behave, what you physically say, how you sound when you are speaking as and within the word Family, to when you are not, there is a difference.
When you meet a stranger, when you meet someone for the first time, there is much respect and civility. How come with the people we have known the longest, our family, can the really worst of us, the really evil of us can exist? Maybe its because we have defined our family as always being our family, and that no matter what we say or do to them, or they unto us, that they will always be our family, so it is okay, because they love you DEEP down.
When it comes to family programming, it is like the Pure Freedom to do or say whatever you want. So what do we choose to do with ultimate freedom without consequences? We say some very rude things, attackative things, we make each other cry, we yell, shout, we emotionally manipulate, we get defensive, we get angry. We KNOW that this would be unacceptable in any other context, so why with Family? Perhaps this is who we have accepted and allowed us to be. And like I said, there is no consequence and you are free to choose or say whatever you want, because they are your family. So this is what we do with ultimate free choice situation.
One important dimension to look at with the Family context and Family word is the sense of pleasure, and feeling of freedom, and feeling of power. When we say horrid things to each other and yell at each other in family situations, we love it. There is that dimension within us. It is interesting what we do with free choice and freedom from accountability.
Because our minds function within polarity, when switch the roles between victim and abuser in the family context, where we allow the abuse, the yelling and shouting unto us because we continuously accept and allow the dimension of being the abuser within us. Every victim equally carries the abuser signature. One would need to let go of both at the same time in order to really change.
What is interesting is how young adults and teenagers seek to leave the family and find their own group of friends and people who can be their own family by choice. I have observed within me and my life that the multiple times I have done this, that my programming inside the word Family would activate. Where with my NEW family, I would act and behave in the same way as both abuser and victim. And the other people were also living their own programming. The signature for this includes the Immense feeling of FREEDOM and Acceptance, which is the freedom from accountability, freedom to do or say anything onto others, and freedom to abuse.
When a person, like myself, starts a relationship with one other person, a romantic one, initially it will be very positive and good, and over time it will turn sour. It may take a very long time for it to turn sour. We may even get married or have kids. But at some point the family programming will rear its head. Everything that a person has lived, such as myself, and the information that is stored within the word family will be activated within them. It never goes away, unless really removed. So that is how it is possible to start a new relationship and new family and it all being positive at first, and yet we become exactly like our parents and all the problems and fighting and arguing and attacking resurfaces. That information is only allowed to surface when you KNOW that you have someone else TRAPPED or they AGREE to be like a FAMILY with you.
The information, the LIVING information that is within us, that is stored within the word family can be changed. It is the sins of the Father as spoken in the bible. It has been passed onto generation after generation. Attacking your family doesn't change the information, because that is the information, you will know this if you read carefully my words. The thing is that we have plenty of examples where we behave with respect, kindness, and regard. So its not impossible.
How to go about changing the information within us? Part of it involves owning up to what we have done to other people which happen to be family members. They are equally people. So self-forgiveness is needed for all of the horrid things you have said and done to them. From there a commit to change will help. At the same time we must be able to face our own victimization. This includes self-forgiving the blame onto others. With ultimate freedom, we place all our accountability onto the Family. So to change we reverse that flow of accountability from them to ourselves. Through this process we change. So we change Freedom to Accountability.
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