Day 836 Fear of Intimacy and Honesty

 Something that is within us is this Fear of Intimacy and Honesty. What does that mean practically? One obvious example is when there is someone who is already very open, but also kind, very concerned and caring for you. There is a saying from a tv show that says "you don't get to choose who cares about you" which is very true. The people who do care about you right now, you don't have that choice of who that is. So let's say in this example you are the person who has someone that cares about you. So let's say you are the person who has this fear of Intimacy and Honesty which is triggered when you are in the presence of a person who has those types of qualities: Intimacy, Honesty, Kindness etc... Naturally your fear would over take you, at least its natural because we currently simply just react to what me feel and so thus act on it. 

One example would be one where you push the person away and you react with anger, since anger is used to react to your own fear. Think about the times where you react with anger when you feel afraid of something. So in this example you would be essentially ruining, sabotaging a relationship with a person who cares about you or has that potential to care. In this example lets say they are not a family member since we are usually stuck with family members regardless of how we react. So this non-family member, and so thus either a friend or someone who could potentially be more, is thus pushed away.

This example is very much like the Jesus story where he was essentially killed for being so normal, or lets say how normal should be. So any case where someone is lets say have some great quality about them, and they are despised, attacked or rejected because of it. But its not because of it, is it? Its because of your own fears and reactions. I mean the number of people who are great and amazing in this reality seems to be very few. Like if you can imagine someone walking up to you and speaking about very deep and important things, or open up about their life or other personal things easily. That is quite rare. And that is why its also a fear of Honesty, because it is as simply as honesty. When we lie its because we aren't telling the truth. And to simply speak our truth in what we see and what is happening because something radical like intimacy because we aren't used to it. To really get in touch with what is going on inside ourselves, is honesty. 

 And we sabotage the relationships that can really help us become better essentially. And this is just one door of opportunity to the more ultimate goal: to become like this very person. To become someone who is Intimate, who is Honest, who can care for others as a simple choice that is made. I mean for those who know about Jesus, isn't that the basic point? To become that kind of person who appears godly, but its actually how we should all be. Kind, caring about others, Honest, Real, and it is the most simple of qualities and things that is accessible to all. It's not the responsibility of a few or some to become this way, but its the responsibility of all of us, no one excluded, because the truth is that we are equal to everything in existence including the qualities of someone great or amazing. Nothing is out of reach from you to live or become. So if you can do it, then you have the responsibility do it, because of how it will change this reality and change others. 

 Is it so radical to say we are all the same. We are all not so unique. We are all capable and worthy of care. That we are all equal. And that there is nothing greater or more than us, or less. And if we push others away, if we fight others, if we suppress others, it is us creating separation, and denying the ultimate truth that we are equal and one in the same. So we have to eliminate all fear, for there is nothing to fear in this reality, since fear creates separation, and truth is that we are one and equal. We have to become Intimacy and Honesty, and stop fearing it. And embrace and welcome those few who can show us how to live such words, and recognize how we have sabotaged past opportunities so that we can stop it.