Relationships
Everyone has a relationship with everyone. Yet not everyone has a relationship with everyone.
What this means is that we may have a relationship with everyone, but we may not even be aware of it, invest in it, or get it any attention.
Within the world system, we have agreed to follow certain rules and procedure for relationships. This includes all types. Friendships, work relationships, romantic relationships.
We believe that our emotions are us, and they need to be respected. We believe that we must respect how each one feels. Again, with the ownership. Where if someone hurts your feelings its their fault. We treat our emotions like tangible objects, like stones that hurt you. And it can also be like sex, where its like someone is giving you something wonderful just through your emotions.
With these rules we feel just in acting and reacting as we do. If someone disrespects your emotions they deserve punishment. If someone makes you feel good, well you owe them a favor.
With relationships we have this imaginary ladder, or building that we climb or build. Progressing in the relationship like a download bar that progressively fills.
Just like how the existence of laws proves the human being is not reliable, does these social rules and expectations show how we are not really relating with each other, or in a good place.
In secret, abuse occurs. Lying, cheating, insults, attacks. We insult with the intention to hurt their feelings. We are not in a good place with our relationships with everyone.
Imagine being able to meet someone and being able to open up about anything. Being so open and intimate, and that being cool. Where its not weird or awkward or bad. Imagine being pals and friends without needing to say anything or pass any test, because that is just how things are. Everyone is trustworthy and reliable.
Imagine there being no judgment, no idea or preconception about the right way to present yourself. No need to be overly aggressive or pretend to be happy, or pretend to be confident. No need to look pretty or beautiful, no need to be charming. Just be whoever you want to be. Real freedom.
That would be fucking amazing, i mean really just imagine it.
pure freedom of expression.
To even be like that though, just with yourself alone is a long process. The solution is not waiting for others to change, but becoming that yourself. This includes letting go of your own perception and belief about others too. And of course of yourself.
The current fuel for our acceptance and allowance of relationships as how they exist now, is our emotions and how we feel. We base so much of how we relate with each other and treat each other based on what we feel, and we ascribe responsibility of what we feel to the other person or we excuse it as being our own preference or our personality, and just who we are, and things just don't work out. Look, emotions and feelings are not real things, we create them. They can be changed. This one singular point defines relationships, and changing it will radically redefine relationships forever.
Currently we follow these sets of rules. We justify being tough on people and mean and being a bully. We have a savage definition and conception of relationships. Unforgiving, tough, remorseless. We place our individual importance as so much greater than others. So we are all separated and all believe we are better than everyone else. It's a constant battle and war zone. Its a tug of war and struggle between different forces. The romance is equally intense and equally savage. Its pure drama, and it doesn't matter whether its a happy ending or sad because its all drama.
Imagine instead just friendship with everyone and that's it. No drama, no enemies, no conflict. Just pals with everyone. A very simple and straight forward life. The same with romance where its simple and straight forward. In a way, everyone is just the same. The idea that there is someone else better for you, or something else you need wouldn't exist. Because what matter is what is practical and right here in front of you. Life is what matters and it is everywhere. That would be real equality and oneness manifested here as people, in the aspect of relationships.
Relationships describe everything. Everything is an interaction. So we have a relationship to everyone and everything. Whether we know it or not.
fo sho!
Life
What this means is that we may have a relationship with everyone, but we may not even be aware of it, invest in it, or get it any attention.
Within the world system, we have agreed to follow certain rules and procedure for relationships. This includes all types. Friendships, work relationships, romantic relationships.
We believe that our emotions are us, and they need to be respected. We believe that we must respect how each one feels. Again, with the ownership. Where if someone hurts your feelings its their fault. We treat our emotions like tangible objects, like stones that hurt you. And it can also be like sex, where its like someone is giving you something wonderful just through your emotions.
With these rules we feel just in acting and reacting as we do. If someone disrespects your emotions they deserve punishment. If someone makes you feel good, well you owe them a favor.
With relationships we have this imaginary ladder, or building that we climb or build. Progressing in the relationship like a download bar that progressively fills.
Just like how the existence of laws proves the human being is not reliable, does these social rules and expectations show how we are not really relating with each other, or in a good place.
In secret, abuse occurs. Lying, cheating, insults, attacks. We insult with the intention to hurt their feelings. We are not in a good place with our relationships with everyone.
Imagine being able to meet someone and being able to open up about anything. Being so open and intimate, and that being cool. Where its not weird or awkward or bad. Imagine being pals and friends without needing to say anything or pass any test, because that is just how things are. Everyone is trustworthy and reliable.
Imagine there being no judgment, no idea or preconception about the right way to present yourself. No need to be overly aggressive or pretend to be happy, or pretend to be confident. No need to look pretty or beautiful, no need to be charming. Just be whoever you want to be. Real freedom.
That would be fucking amazing, i mean really just imagine it.
pure freedom of expression.
To even be like that though, just with yourself alone is a long process. The solution is not waiting for others to change, but becoming that yourself. This includes letting go of your own perception and belief about others too. And of course of yourself.
The current fuel for our acceptance and allowance of relationships as how they exist now, is our emotions and how we feel. We base so much of how we relate with each other and treat each other based on what we feel, and we ascribe responsibility of what we feel to the other person or we excuse it as being our own preference or our personality, and just who we are, and things just don't work out. Look, emotions and feelings are not real things, we create them. They can be changed. This one singular point defines relationships, and changing it will radically redefine relationships forever.
Currently we follow these sets of rules. We justify being tough on people and mean and being a bully. We have a savage definition and conception of relationships. Unforgiving, tough, remorseless. We place our individual importance as so much greater than others. So we are all separated and all believe we are better than everyone else. It's a constant battle and war zone. Its a tug of war and struggle between different forces. The romance is equally intense and equally savage. Its pure drama, and it doesn't matter whether its a happy ending or sad because its all drama.
Imagine instead just friendship with everyone and that's it. No drama, no enemies, no conflict. Just pals with everyone. A very simple and straight forward life. The same with romance where its simple and straight forward. In a way, everyone is just the same. The idea that there is someone else better for you, or something else you need wouldn't exist. Because what matter is what is practical and right here in front of you. Life is what matters and it is everywhere. That would be real equality and oneness manifested here as people, in the aspect of relationships.
Relationships describe everything. Everything is an interaction. So we have a relationship to everyone and everything. Whether we know it or not.
fo sho!
Life
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