Pain

 It is a part of life to hurt others. 

A programmed statement inside of me is that I don't want to hurt anyone. That I will avoid actions that involve hurting others, including emotionally. One of things I avoid is rejecting others. I can't stand the thought of rejecting someone. 

That's one of the reasons why I avoid dating. Because I can't stand the idea of someone falling for me, and me rejecting them, hurting them. I would feel guilty.

I hate rejection. I hate pain. I hate suffering. But all of that is part of life. Including me inflicting that on others and others inflicting that on me. so there's no need to hide and try to stop it from happening. 

Thats also one of the reasons I have been quiet. Because I have hurt others with my words, and it was words they needed to hear but I hated myself for hurting them, even if it was what was best for them. 

Pain is a part of life. And the truth hurts sometimes. To help another, you may need to tell them the hurtful truth. I would say its a guarantee that for each one, we will hear a painful truth. 

Pain isn't bad. It is a message and communication that requires our attention.