Day 940 The nuance of speaking publicly on personal matters

 someone was asking about the nuance of when you discuss something that involves other people in a public way. I would say that every word you speak is an act of creation. so you must be completely specific in everything you express and thus be taking responsibility for everything involved in that including the outflows and consequence. If you were lacking in specificity then that is your responsibility. We are all creators all the time. Whether we embrace that responsibility or not, it occurs regardless. Our very existence has an impact. And even when you die you continue to have an impact. 

You can never escape the responsibility that comes with existing. You either own up to it or you don't. There is no in between. Do or do not. 

You can always take a moment to reflect and choose what you will express. You look at why you are expressing something or not. Is it for yourself? Is it for others? What are you going through inside yourself. Your starting point determines what you are doing. If you are simply following the preprogramming then its a typical reasoning that involves separation, so predictable. If you are standing in principle then its about growth, overcoming your limitations and the hand you have been dealt.

The more work you put in, the more you understand. 

When you take responsibility you are not blaming others. so if you talk about others it is only in explaining your own reactions to what happened. so that you may take responsibility for it. We can always overcome or approach situations in a myriad of ways, to break through the preprogramming. If someone is bullying you, you can make a joke. You can be unusually quiet. You can decide to leave. You can choose to have fun regardless. You are a creator, so create to the best outcome. Maybe you can find out how to break through to them. That is something i haven't had success in: to in a few words get through to a bully and have them see some part of what they are doing. But that would be ideal. A goal to strive to. 

Ultimately, it is accepting that the results of what you say are multidimensional and there may be room for improvement. As you learn of the effects, you can take responsibility. You learn bit by bit what more you could have done, and how and why. The level of preprogramming runs deeply.