“…simply make things better for someone else, as if I were to be born again, and that someone else, and it doesn't have to be me, but it could be someone like me, that they would have a better life than I had, that everyone was better. There is something seriously wrong with everyone, and that is something I observed when I was very young. We are the problem, and we need to become better, because we are fucking everything up.”
“So this is who I am. There is something seriously wrong with everyone and we need to fix it, if not for us, then for the future generations."
"Everything I have done in this life, and everything I will do, is for this purpose.”

Thursday, March 13, 2014

Porn and Masturbation Addiction Support -day 144

There are two journeys that one can take in your Addiction Support for Porn and Masturbation.
The first is the more obvious one. To take a time to stop the addiction. The second is transforming the addiction to an expression. So we start with the first.
1)
So there are benefits to stopping the addiction. One benefit is that you see your own ability to command yourself to be a certain way or take a certain action, and you make that action. This is important. There are specific tools and techniques one can use. I will share my personal ones that I have used. As a warning this may or may not be useful to you, which could be because of how I explain them here may not be sufficient for you to understand and this may be out of my control due to vocabulary. Additionally, as with any point, it all depends on your will power.

My base technique is breathing. Let me explain, because breathing every single breath in awareness, being here. Let me explain, so being here means listening to everything, being here. I don't want to explain it otherwise you will create an idea of what it is. So it really is just that, being here. Breathing helps, because breathing is something that is always here. So you're just being equal to that. Breathing here. Make sense, no?

A more advance technique. Advance only because it relied on being here. So really without being here and breathing this won't work. So these are like little games or challenges which rely on understanding what is going on in the mind/body. So really, the mind and body are one. Your body sometimes move automatically, then this indicates the mind is moving it. So this means they are one. So mind is memory or information. So understanding this is crucial, because memory is sticky, but it can be manipulated and changed. So the information as the mind (because remember the mind is information) can be manipulated and changed, even erased to an extent. At a deeper level, your mind's memory have individual cells responsible for them. So literally, on a physical level, your memories are literally/physically built as these little living things called cells. So they can change and die. So the 1st point is to understand your mind/memory can change.

Furthermore, the mind/memory is sticky, meaning that it will literally build and become stronger the more it gets activated or retrieved as memory. You know how you had to memorize things in school for tests and quizzes, or also how you learned a skill by constantly practicing it? Well that is the same way that your thoughts, mind and memory function. Its the same system. The more you think, the stronger the thoughts get. So that is the second point to get, that it will depend on how strong your thinking is, for you to really stop/change it. So it requires the same consistency and dedication that it took to create those thoughts. So get ready!

The third and final point. The content of thoughts are words or pictures. So basically, information. The information itself won't be erased. What changes is how you relate to the information. That is all you can do. Change who you are as you stand with and as the information.

1st Advice/hint/technique, see the information, as the thoughts, as You. If you see the information as you, you begin to understand you. Plus its the truth. So working with the truth is always easier. Again, see the information as You.
2nd Sometimes you may have trouble remembering the content/information as thoughts, so you could use your imagination to activate those contents. Perhaps you may ask yourself questions to help you trigger the thoughts as information. You may also place yourself in that exact situation, in your mind, or maybe in actual real life, in order to activate that information as thoughts.
3rd Advice/hint/technique, is to apply self-forgiveness. Now by having the starting point, the information is you as thoughts: you can now consider the well-being of another more so than before. So for me self-forgiveness is more effective as I consider the well-beings of more beings. So the most effective self-forgiveness is one where I consider the well-being of every being. When I apply it, I receive immediate feedback. I feel good within me throughout the process. And it changes, from a point of pain to release, though a good pain because I am facing it completely. And in the end I feel satisfied, and clear, and full of understanding, and I know what must be done. Again, this is more effective as I open up more to include the well-being of more people/beings/points.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to remain silent where my words could have prevented pain and suffering.

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